Although I am a feminist and advocate for women in general, I’m still working to deconstruct the sexism that was programmed into me for 30 years. I don’t always get it right (as Lindsey is fully aware), but I also have ZERO desire to have even a hint of misogyny working through me. Frankly, I wasn’t even aware that I was sexist at all, but luckily I’m married to someone who is happy to help me grow in feminism. One day she sat me down and began destroying the foundation on which society and the Christian Church had subtly programmed its sexist ways in me. At first, I was a bit defensive, “I’m not sexist! I’m a feminist for crying out loud.” But piece by piece, Lindsey broke that shit apart. It’s disturbing how often I told her “no” regarding her dreams and desires favoring my own.
I’m done pretending that the Bible is “God’s holy word,” or “infallible.” That’s just plain ridiculous when viewed from any perspective outside the fundamentalist construct. The Bible is not god. The Bible is often elevated to that status, which is called idolatry by any other definition, but I assure you it’s just a book. Men wrote (plagiarized) the Bible, and they did a really shitty job of it. The Bible is chock-full of misogyny, and it’s time for Christians to stop defending it. Call it out! Name it! Accept that the authors were assholes, but don’t defend their unrighteous behavior! At least give an excuse worth listening to, “The Bible was written in a time a place when women were undervalued. Similarly, women were undervalued when the U.S. Constitution was written, but we amended the Constitution. We recognize that the Bible is full of dehumanization, and it’s wrong.”
As Sarah Bessey pointed out when she started the #ThingsOnlyChristianWomenHear on Twitter, sexism isn’t limited to Christianity or religion. It’s a problem on a global scale, and it needs to be exposed regularly. In fact, I’m making it my duty to make it as awkward as possible for anyone I hear saying anything sexist and you should, too.
So, I leave you with the words of (mostly) women who face this daily (Note: if you don’t see what’s wrong with these, you’re either accepting of or numb to sexism — or you’re the sexist. Just so we’re clear on that.)