Adding to the Noise

You may have noticed that I haven’t been nearly as active with my blog posts. A lot of that has to do with the passing holiday season. Ours wasn’t quite as chaotic as we’ve been accustomed to. This was our first time to spend our holidays 1200 miles from “home.” We missed getting to see our friends and family, but we loved the intimacy we shared this season.

There’s more to share about why you haven’t heard from me. Mainly, I haven’t had a lot to say.

That may come as a surprise, but it’s true! It didn’t really occur to me until recently as to why that was.

I can assure you that It’s not been for lack of trying to think of content to post. I’ve put in lots of time doing that, but I just couldn’t come up with a hot topic, something edgy, something…heretical.

When I finally took the time to ask the right questions, the answer was obvious.

Instead of asking, “what should I write about?” I instead asked, “why can’t I think of something to write about?”


Just before Christmas I decided to do some much needed housekeeping in my social media worlds–Facebook in particular.

I narrowed my “friends” list from over 450 to 150. I’ve also spent a good amount of time “unfollowing” and “unliking” people or feeds that cause me to be angry or that bring unrest in my life.

Since then, I’ve watched my feed for folks “sharing” things that rub me the wrong way. When I see something that does that, I choose “Hide all from… stop seeing post from this page.” (I’m not hiding posts from the friend–just posts they share from another Facebook “page” that causes me to stir.)

What does all of that have to do with me posting an article on my blog?

Most of my posts have been inspirational writings that stem from things I’ve seen on my social media feeds. Those feeds caused me to get upset about the injustice, bigotry, hate, fundamentalism, and judgmental religious crap I was seeing.

When I turned off the noise, I was left in silence; peaceful, restful, beautiful silence.

When I get on my social media outlets now, I’m left with posts that actually interest me. My screen isn’t filled with rubbish.

I’ve also noticed the change it’s made in my personal life. I don’t carry my phone anymore. I used to be a mindless drone staring at a screen at any given moment. My family caught on to that, and they called me out on it.

I carry my phone at work, but when I get home, it goes on my nightstand. I’m not even remotely tempted to go pick it up and look at it. I’m not worried what others are saying about me or my beliefs anymore because I no longer expect to see any of it.

I’m free!

I’m free to say what I want, when I want, how I want, without fear of backlash. Only now I don’t feel the need to justify any of what I have to say because most of the people left listening already agree with me.

I don’t feel the need nearly as often to say something “heretical” because I’ve taken the microphone away from the majority of those calling me a heretic.

Don’t get me wrong–I still have things I want to say, and I will say them. The urge to speak to mindless arguments and topics that are considered “hot topics” in the religious or news realms has dissipated. It’s all noise, and right now I don’t want to add to the noise.

Right now, the solace in the silence is sweet. I’m going to soak it up for as long as I’m able, and I’d like to invite you to this gem of a place.

Author: David Dietz

Born and raised up into leadership in the American Church, David is unlearning Christianity and instead advocates for the full acceptance of others. "To love someone is to allow that person to be fully themselves without interference or expectations of change--to accept them exactly as they are. Loving someone isn't just 'accepting' who they are, however; it's giving them freedom to be a wholly distinct individual. When you love someone so deeply that you relinquish any control or ownership you *think* you have over them, you are showing that person love untainted."

3 thoughts on “Adding to the Noise”

  1. Love, love, love this post! I am on duty 24/7 as ‘the newspaper lady’, or so it seemed. It interrupted my time with my son, movies, etc. Friday is now ‘Freedom Friday’; no school, no work and no phone on Friday! You should have seen my son’s face when I announced this. Concerning social media; you are spot on. I need to also go through and trim things up. On one particular time I found myself actually feeling dirty and weighed down by the fodder I had trudged through on social media site. I have one ‘friend’ who keeps posting religious opinionated videos on my page. Love her dearly and I am a Christian who chooses not to engage in that bigoted beliefs! So, thank you for your example. I too will be making a change towards more peace. Christmas this year was just my son and myself. When people ask if we had a good Christmas I answer truthfully that it was one of the best. Then they ask if family came to visit. I say no, it was my son and I. They look at me pitifully. Argh! It was great, no pity needed. True, missed people but it didn’t take away from our time AT ALL.

    1. Thank you, Tara. I’m glad you can relate! Facebook can certainly come across in a negative light, but taking action can also make it much more reasonable to look at. I’m glad that you and your son had a great Christmas!

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