LGBTQ, Abortions, Widows and Orphans – Part 1


I know that even just one of the things listed on the title of this post is highly controversial, let alone 4! I’m still in the early stages of figuring out how to voice my thoughts as lovingly as possible, so please continue to bear with me as I get that lined out. With that said, please note that I’m not targeting anyone with this post. Any references to churches or Christians aren’t meant to group all churches or Christians together. There are so many of them getting it right on these issues; I’m simply stating where I stand on these issues. These are my thoughts and convictions. Any insulting, bashing, or dehumanizing comments will be removed.


I’ve made it pretty clear that I’m a converted ally and proponent of the LGBTQ community. I was “in the closet” on this issue for nearly two years, but I couldn’t withhold my convictions any longer. This was undoubtedly a shocking revelation to many of my friends and family. Heck, it may be a shock to some that are just now reading this about me!

I believed all of my life that anyone in the LGBTQ community were sinners and destined to spend an eternity in hell. I reluctantly watched a documentary on the subject after the persuasion to do so from Lindsey (my wife). She had watched it a few days before, and it really got her to thinking. Before watching it, she suggested we do so, and my reaction was anything but compliant.

I said, “Why in the hell would I watch something as stupid as that? Do you expect my mind to be even remotely swayed?”

Nevertheless, I relented.

The documentary titled “For The Bible Tells Me So” is available to watch on Netflix. It’s also available to watch at Youtube for $2.99.

When the documentary was over, I sat in silence staring at the screen for a solid minute. I turned to Lindsey and said, “hmm…”

The documentary was far from “stupid,” and it absolutely had my mind doing cartwheels.

Fast forward to where I am today, and I’ve read, watched, listened, and discussed with others about this topic at length! I’ve read books about it, researched the Greek and Hebrew meanings of the words used in the Bible, watched pastors deliver their sermons on the subject via Youtube, listened to lots of pastors, authors, and doctors talk about it, and I’ve had good conversations about it with others. NOTE: I’m not a person that likes to have someone “tickle my ears,” so I’ve sought out opposing arguments on the topic.

The only solid conclusion I could come up with is that there isn’t a solid conclusion to be drawn – at least biblically speaking.

You might be saying “How can you say that there’s not a solid conclusion when the Bible clearly states that ‘homosexuality is an abomination’ ? What about Sodom?” 

I can say that because I did the research. I looked at the terminology used in the respective languages in which it was written, looked at the context, looked at the time and place it was written, and I considered to whom it was written. At the end of the day, I can tell you that the muddy water is muddy. There are good arguments in both directions of what the biblical authors meant, and how the terminology could be translated.

As for Sodom…what about it? It’s not a story about homosexulality. My interpretation of the story of Sodom and Gomorrah is that the cities were destroyed by God because they refused to be anything but abusive to strangers, outcasts, the poor, the sick, and the disadvantaged.

There is that one part where dudes were crying out for Lot to release the angels to them so they could gang rape them – to which Lot’s reply was to offer his virgin daughters (a whole other conversation to be had!). Why would Lot offer his daughters to a group of homosexual men wanting to rape male angels? It doesn’t add up because it’s not a story about homosexuality. Rather, it’s a story about dehumanization.

After digging until I was satisfied, and still was left empty handed, I was left exactly how I began – staring blankly; dumbfounded.

Some may try to paint the picture of Jesus and his response to prostitutes and to the woman at the well, and compare those to how he would respond to homosexuals. That doesn’t work either. Jesus was telling them to “go and sin no more” because their actions were devaluing/objectifying of themselves (again, dehumanization).

LGBTQ people aren’t doing that. The majority of them are normal, everyday people just like you and I. They’re seeking committed, fulfilling, loving, long-term relationships. They’re not engaged in dehumanization; not even the “Ts.”

Transgender people are people. Their gender identity is irrelevant. Treating them as if they’re mentally unstable because they identify as the opposite sex than what they were born is sinful (dehumanizing) – just as it would be sinful (dehumanizing) for them not to be true to themselves by being someone they aren’t on the inside.

The argument can be made all day long that “God made LGBTQ people male and female, and for them to try to be – or be with – someone of the opposite sex is sin.” – You know, the whole “Adam and Steve” thing–but sin according to who? I’ve already pointed out that the terms used biblically can easily be argued in their interpretations, and at best it’s a longshot to try to pin it down with any certainty.

So as a Jesus follower, naturally I decided to line up how I should respond to the LGBTQ community in accordance to his example. When Jesus spent time with outcasts, did he condemn any of them to hell? What about the prostitutes? How about the tax collectors? The poor and homeless?

In every single case, the only response that Jesus gave was one of love – inclusion – acceptance – forgiveness – peace – healing – restoration. The only time he encouraged someone to change their lifestyle was when they were sinning against (dehumanizing) themselves or others, or against God (turning over tables).

As I said, I had to decide how my response to my LGBTQ friends would be – how I could best reflect Jesus.

Friends, may I encourage you to do the same?

Slandering anyone, using derogatory and hateful language, condemnation, abusive behavior, and pointing out what you think is “sin” goes 100% completely against who God is – Love. I’m deeply burdened by the way I practiced all of those things so regularly that it became a part of my daily life. I can only pray that anyone I knew when I acted in such a way will miraculously see this post and forgive me.

To my LGBTQ friends (and their families and friends):

I love you. I accept you for who you are – exactly as you are! Know that the love and complete acceptance of Jesus is yours. He would never ask you to be someone other than who God made you to be. Be true to yourself. Know that there are others like me that haven’t always looked at you as I do now, but there is hope! I’m a perfect example of that hope.

When you need someone to hear you, I’ll be here waiting. If you need someone to talk you off the ledge, call me. If you want my phone number so you can call me, it’s yours. Just ask.

You are beautifully and wonderfully made! God made you that way.

Author: David Dietz

Born and raised up into leadership in the American Church, David is unlearning Christianity and instead advocates for the full acceptance of others. "To love someone is to allow that person to be fully themselves without interference or expectations of change--to accept them exactly as they are. Loving someone isn't just 'accepting' who they are, however; it's giving them freedom to be a wholly distinct individual. When you love someone so deeply that you relinquish any control or ownership you *think* you have over them, you are showing that person love untainted."

11 thoughts on “LGBTQ, Abortions, Widows and Orphans – Part 1”

  1. Nice post. I’m enjoying being a spectator to your transition/morphing. I really enjoyed the blog. I’m interested in what you think about Lott doing that to his daughters. Maybe another time. Keep up the posts.

    1. Thanks bro. It’s insane for me to put myself in Lot’s position and think about offering up my daughter to rapist thugs! I’ll think on that one for a future post. Thanks for your support. Love you bro.

  2. Hi! My name is Tim, on June 28th I married the love of my life, the man I’ve shared the last 13 years with. I was raised in a strict christian family that took alot of convincing & a few suicide attempts to convert. My parents walked me down the aisle. So yes, there is Hope! I started reading this a shared post on Facebook, got to the part where u me tioned the documentary stopped reading, watched said documentary, then continued reading. I sit here now with tears streaming & my eyes swollen, nose stuffed & throat choked all from the love of a stranger. Thank you so much for this, that last part really touched my heart.

    1. Tim,
      Thank you so much for taking the time to share your story! I’m so humbled that you were moved by my words. I’m so glad for you and your husband, and I hope that your life is filled with love. Please take the time to friend me on Facebook. I’d love to get to know both of you more!

  3. Like Tim, I was moved to tears and deeply touched by your concluding remarks and the love you give out to “strangers”, as Tim put it. So beautiful.

    I am an older gay, comparatively recently out of the closet (2012). I was extremely anti-gay, terrified out of my wits by the whole thing and in such denial that I could not even acknowledge my own sexual wiring. I got married young, had 3 beautiful kids who are remarkably well-balanced and now 8 grandkids. These were the blessings of denial. I was confronted with my true sexuality in the 80s and came out to my wife at the same time as I, for the first time, acknowledged the truth about myself. She was devastated but a wise counsellor suggested she stay in the marriage. The church, or rather the pastor I should say, was no help. So we continued as before, raised our family, became life-long best friends (people thought we had a good marriage, and I believe we did too). But the struggle was always there eating at me and I finally separated from my best friend in 2012 and began a journey of self-discovery which has been the hardest thing I have ever done. Incidentally we had become born-again Christians in 80s, just before my initial coming out, and I ended up serving full time in the church, even running a Bible school, preaching and teaching. When I separated from my dear wife, I resigned from all church activities since where I live gays are not only unacceptable but the law also forbids, so the church here is very much anti-gay too. As you can imagine, I have been to hell and back in my wrestling with what Scripture says and how God feels about gay folk, and I have clutched on to revelation of original language as a life raft, but never been entirely convinced. Your post here is a huge relief to me in that it shows such incredible balance, and I am so relieved that you came to the conclusions you did. How wonderfully freeing and how greatly affirming this is too. So thank you, David. You are an amazing, incredible person, really just like we all are, but somehow you are in an extra-special place just at the moment for me! I cannot express my gratitude enough. Can you understand how what you have done is given a very precious gift, priceless, not only of love, but also of peace. You have indeed shown the amazing grace of Jesus.

    1. Hey Jem!
      Thank you for sharing your story with me. It sincerely means a lot.

      I can’t begin to imagine the heartache that you and your wife battled through. What a testimony of how two people in love can choose to remain best friends. It’s admirable, especially on the part of your wife. I’m sure the emotional struggle the two of you endured was heart wrenching.

      I’m grateful for your encouragement, and truly humbled by your gratitude towards me. Thank you!

  4. I slept with a prostitute. The act was sinful, because it was out of the will of God for my life. God was gracious and loving through it all. However, His love didn’t leave me in my sin, it called me out of it. Why? Because His love had a better way. He wanted me to connect with the true identity of who He intended me to be. He was right, sin had deceived me into settling for less than God’s best. I was duped into exchanging the perfect truth for a poor substitute. I empathize with people who are deceived into believing there is not a more perfect way to live. It’s a hopeless, empty and lonely state of being, no matter how many people agree with you or champion the alternative to God’s best.

    “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.” – Romans 12:2

  5. David, Bravo for this post and your courage to write it. Needs to be said, over and over. You’re so right: Jesus demanded love – for God, for our neighbors (who are everyone), for our enemies. And he demanded we bring everyone into his embrace as disciples through love, grace and mercy as he brought us into his arms.

    I’m most certain shaming never brought anyone into the arms of God.

    Bless you for allowing the light of Jesus to shine through you.

    1. Thank you, Susan. I appreciate you taking the time to read and to comment! I totally agree that shaming wasn’t Jesus’ way or command to us. 🙂

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